COMMON MISTAKES
I was gisting with a friend, one thing led to another and
she asked if she could relate a matter to me if I could advise her and I said
why not. It would be an honour to be of help. She said a friend of hers called
her to seek advice on an issue so I listened patiently to her narration, thus
the story unfolds.
My friend told me what happened to a friend of hers; let’s
give her the name Kinks. Kinks made a mistake every other girl has made at some
point or the other.
A male colleague of kinks asked her out and told her point
blank he had a girlfriend he had no intention of leaving but he was sure he had
feelings for her. He started chatting her up on BBM talking marriage like he
was serious then he called her up one day saying he wanted to visit her at her
Uncle’s place to which she naively agreed. On the said day she called her uncle
who had gone out to come home, he met the guy and after a while went out
thereby leaving them at home. Kinks went to the kitchen to cook, minutes later
he followed suite and they had sex. Kinks brainwashed herself to think the guy
loved her because they had sex and he actually could not have had sex with her
if he indeed had a girlfriend.
Ladies, a guy doesn’t need to be in love with you to want sex
from you; he is moved by what he sees. If he wants to hit that he will
definitely hit that. Kinks had made the mistake of sleeping with an office
colleague then she made it worse by bombarding his phones with calls and sms. I
tell young ladies when you make the mistake of sleeping with a guy do not give
him the pleasure of calling him immediately after the first seven days you guys
had sex because those days will go a long way to determine what happens next.
After the sex do not call him if possible do not even save his number and when
he calls you could act like you do not even know him. This will make him not
see you as a pest or as being needy.
When a guy tells you he has someone, take a walk most
especially when he says he is not ready to leave her for you. Some girls make
the mistake of hanging around and dreaming he will choose her over his
girlfriend. What you do not get , is that the lady has left her memories imprinted on
his heart and mind also she has been given enough time to prove herself to him
and it will only take divine intervention and destiny to tear them apart( truth
be told).
Kinks upon regretting her action called up the guy and
hinted him of her decision to resign saying she could not handle how the guy
shunned her and the shame she felt which I termed a no-no. Agreed she had not
played her game rightly but instead of doing that she should have gone for a
makeover; wear something kill-it(nice) and some killer heels also get a guy who
is more classy than the colleague of hers to pick her from the office for a
date so the guy knows he may have brought her down but she is not yet out also
she can move on without being a nervous wreck.
For young ladies out there be focused, say no to pre-marital
sex and only give yourself to a deserving man. Never make the mistake of
convincing yourself that a man loves you; it his duty to convince you he loves
you.
Written by Seun Olayisade
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Exactly!
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