My name is Abigail and I am faced with a mountainous task I got myself into ...(before you start judging me, please read my story). I am involved with two guys as in a relationship with two of them, one was intended while the other was accidental. I knew Andrew from my school days at the university and we have been in a relationship. We have been together for more than 9 years and we love each other....our relationship is good....even when we are apart , we know that we have each other. Andrew has refused or rather insisted he is not ready for marriage , but that he loves me and I should wait. My mum and the society is pressurizing me to get married. I have been trusting that Andrew will make up his mind and get married to me soon...but Andrew is just not ready and I know it . I just cant leave him alone because anytime I tell him I am out of the relationship...he cries, begs and I am afraid he may harm himself.
Then 2 years ago while at the office I met a dashing handsome Gbenga who is really interested in me. He pursued me relentlessly and one day after an augment with Andrew over the marriage issue, I succumbed to his wooing and went to bed with him. I tried to end the affair but seriously Gbenga is just wonderful...he is caring and I just fell into pattern with him and we started dating. Andrew by the way (in his usual fashion) came over and begged, cried ...and I took him back. It's been 2 years and I have been stringing tow guys along, two guys I love , two guys I can spend my life with. I officially met with Gbenga's family( which I have not done with Andrew , only when I visit him do I meet his relatives ) and Gbenga just proposed to me...I couldn't say yes, (don't get me wrong I want to marry gbenga but what do I tell Andrew) How do I get Andrew to understand that I want to pitch my tent with Gbenga. and that I cant wait for him forever. I love Gbenga and I want him but Andrew is a shadow that is blocking my happiness....what do I do. It may sound so simple but how to I get free from Andrew. Please I need your advice........please help me.
it is obvious that you are very much inlove with Andrew. you only like gbenga cos he is ready to settle down. my advice is go with gbenga he is ready Andrew is not sure of what he wants, God forbid dis kin person go come change mind later. A bird at hand is worth millions in the forest!!!!! usi
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