HEART 2 HEART : IN LOVE WITH TWO GUYS....

My name is Abigail and I am faced with a mountainous task I got myself into ...(before you start judging me, please read my story). I am involved with two guys as in a relationship with two of them, one was intended while the other was accidental. I knew Andrew from my school days at the university and we have been in a relationship. We have been together for more than 9 years and we love each other....our relationship is good....even when we are apart , we know that we have each other. Andrew has refused or rather insisted he is not ready for marriage , but that he loves me and I should wait. My mum and the society is pressurizing me to get married. I have been trusting that Andrew will make up his mind and get married to me soon...but Andrew is just not ready and I know it . I just cant leave him alone because anytime I tell him I am out of the relationship...he cries, begs and I am afraid he may harm himself.
Then 2 years ago while at the office I met a dashing handsome Gbenga who is really interested in me. He pursued me relentlessly and one day after an augment with Andrew over the marriage issue, I succumbed to his wooing and went to bed with him. I tried to end the affair but seriously Gbenga is just wonderful...he is caring and I just fell into pattern with him and we started dating. Andrew by the way (in his usual fashion) came over and begged, cried ...and I took him back. It's been 2 years and I have been stringing tow guys along, two guys I love , two guys I can spend my life with. I officially met with Gbenga's family( which I have not done with Andrew , only when I visit him do I meet his relatives ) and Gbenga just proposed to me...I couldn't say yes, (don't get me wrong I want to marry gbenga but what do I tell Andrew) How do I get Andrew to understand that I want to pitch my tent with Gbenga. and that I cant wait for him forever. I love Gbenga and I want him but Andrew is a shadow that is blocking my happiness....what do I do. It may sound so simple but how to I get free from Andrew. Please I need your advice........please help me.

Mr. President visits Baga...scene of the Boko Haram's worst massacre!

President Goodluck Jonathan yesterday visited the scene of what is feared to be Boko Haram's worst massacre in Baga, Borno state in Nigeria and vowed that the insurgency would soon be over.

But the Islamists gave a fresh indication of the scale of the task, with three separate bombings in the country's religiously tense central region and restive northeast that left at least 35 people dead.

The bombings raised fears of a renewed wave of attacks against vulnerable targets in urban centres, as troops from Nigeria, Niger, Chad and Cameroon make gains against the militants in rural areas.

Jonathan's visit to Baga, where hundreds of people, if not more, are feared to have been killed, came after his main election opponent, Muhammadu Buhari, accused him of a lack of leadership in the crisis. The President, accompanied by military top brass and his national security advisor, told reporters in the Borno state capital Maiduguri after the trip that he wanted to see the devastation first hand.

"I went... to visit communities devastated by the excesses of Boko Haram," he said. "I just went to see things for myself."

Well, this is good but I think information on the success rate of our military should be kept under wraps and comments reserved as this only leads to fresh attacks. Or what do you think concerning this?